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The last goodbye is often unexpected. Time is a gift we know is limited; yet still manage to take it for granted. When we indulge in conflict, we rarely consider the possibility of an abrupt end. Even when our hearts are not ready, or the wounds still sting, we enjoy having the choice to resolve with our loved ones.

Unfortunately, you cannot anticipate when your last opportunity with someone is. You may have days, you may have months, and if you’re truly blessed, you may have years. Too often people recall their “shoulda, woulda, coulda” moments, regretting arguments for which they can no longer make amends.

But was the fight worth it, or was the relationship worth fighting for?

Our generation is becoming increasingly impatient. We can block, unfollow, and de-friend in an instant. There are so many ways to engage with others, that we often overlook how we disengage. In a world obsessed with the idea of “haters”, we are more ready to cut off and let go of people than ever before. Yet it is connectedness that makes humanity beautiful.

The true wealth in connections is found in its quality not quantity. Loving on your loved ones makes the relationship richer.

People are guaranteed to fall short during your journey with them. However, a long-lasting relationship is sustained by patience and compassion, rather than the tally of highs and lows. This is admittedly easier said than done – compassion is challenging, and is not always the most appealing option. That being said, regret is so difficult to overcome, and the impact of sour relationships can spillover in the most unrelated arenas.

Someone may have just crossed your mind. Is it time to make amends with this person? As you start the new week, consider this:

  • It is never too late to make peace, forgive and show love to someone you care about. It is better to swallow your pride than to allow your pride to swallow you.
  • Forgiveness can be a long process, but it’s a process worth starting. If you value the relationship, challenge yourself to explore how you can resolve your issue with them. If they are an unreceptive, at least be at peace that you have tried your best in the situation.
  • Accept when you enter new seasons with the individuals in your life, and work hard to understand how you best relate during this time.
  • Building your network is important, but nurturing your network is where the real reward lies.
  • Regularly remind yourself what you appreciate about your loved ones.
  • Find creative ways to show your loved ones that you appreciate them. Learn their love language, and become fluent in it.
  • If your friendship/relationship is feeling stagnant discover something new with them. Learn a new skill, or have a new experience.
Faith Cole

Faith Cole

Formerly known as “Faith Jegede”, the TED-talking, radio-hosting writer quit London for her American adventure back in 2013. New country, new husband, new career and new name - Faith Cole is passionate about extraordinary living, audacious faith and communication.


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