Do you feel like your constantly putting others before yourself? You feel guilty when you say no? You feel like you’re not progressing?
Then maybe you need to learn to be selfish!
According to the Oxford Dictionary , selfish can be defined as :
(of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.
The statement to be selfish has a lot of negative connotations surrounding it. However have we ever stopped to think that a lot of positivity can also come out of this.
In order for you to reach a certain goal or level in life you may need to be selfish. You may need to lack consideration for certain people and be more concerned about your own personal profit and pleasure. Does this sound like something you’re not doing?
This doesn’t make us weaker however we need to learn how to use our strengths and weaknesses for our own benefit.
It’s important that we are selfish with a few things in life in order for us to grow and progress.
Here are a few things you need to be selfish about in 2017 and why
#1 YOUR TIME
Simply put, your time is precious. Avoid investing your time into things that won’t lead to you gaining value or people that will hold you back. Use your time by investing in yourself , it could be spending time reading , learning a new craft or spending time with family or friends. Be selfish about your time because we are limited to 24 hours in a day.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” — Jim Rohn
#2 YOUR GOALS
They can only be achieved by you and no one else. So you need to be selfish about how you’re going to achieve them. You need to put them before some things/ some people , they must become a priority . If those around you are there to truly support you then they’ll know it’s only for a matter of time and it’s not personal.
#3 YOUR THOUGHTS
This is the most important of the lot. Your thoughts dictate what you say, how you feel and how you act , so it’s necessary that you cut off every source that sows negativity into your mind. Be selfish about who you allow to speak to you, don’t give people the benefit to speak negative things into your life. Spend time feeding your thoughts with positive words of affirmation.
#4 YOUR MONEY
This is a tricky one, ladies we need to be wise here.Certain goals in your life will require money so it’s necessary to save. It could be the new house you want to buy or a new course you want to start. Here you need to make sacrifices like avoid eating out with friends, why not invite them over and make a meal? It’s cheaper in the long run.
What other areas in you life will require you to be more selfish?