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Worthiness is evenly distributed, but unequally received. It is not determined by works, background or circumstance. It is not earned or pursued. It cannot be added to or taken away. From the moment you are born, to the moment you die – you are worthy. Worthiness is a permanent state of being. Irrespective of how you entered the world, it is your birthright to acknowledge it.

In full transparency, accepting this truth has been historically difficult. I have struggled deeply with the idea of worthiness, which has often manifested in my confidence and the way I navigate opportunities. I have found it hard to accept compliments that I do not believe myself. I’ve also readily embraced criticism that perpetuates self-deprecation.

This struggle is not foreign. Often, the way we define worth determines the way we approach and receive it. For example, if you define worth as the sum of your circumstances, you will only feel worthy during the “good” times. So when life hits you (as it always does), it is easy to fall into soul crushing cycles that are further heightened by the experience that you may be facing. If you define worth as a constant however, it can change the way you interact with different seasons in your life. You will realize that you are worthy whether you’re employed or in transition, single or married, thin or thick, and the list continues.

The biggest indicator of how you define your worth is rejection. Being told “no” is difficult to process, but how do you conduct yourself in the face of rejection? For instance, if you’re unsuccessful in a job application process, do you start to feel unqualified? If a person you’re interested in does not reciprocate the way you feel, do you think you’re less lovable? If someone dismisses your vision, are you quick to abandon it? If the answers to any of these were “yes”, you may have to assess how you have been defining your worth. Rejection does not mean you are not worthy, it often means that the opportunity, the skill and the time has not aligned for that particular situation.

There is an important distinction between worthiness and entitlement. Realizing your worth recognizes that no one deserves anything more than you, and at the same time you do not deserve anything more than anyone else. A true understanding of worthiness recognizes the value in all people, and leaves space for humility, service and gratitude.

During this new series, I’ll explore what it means to be “born worthy” and to come to the understanding that you are enough. For those of us who have spent decades thinking otherwise, I am hoping it will be the beginning of a beautiful journey. A journey that declares you’re worthy simply because you exist, and you exist for a worthy purpose.

Faith Cole

Faith Cole

Formerly known as “Faith Jegede”, the TED-talking, radio-hosting writer quit London for her American adventure back in 2013. New country, new husband, new career and new name - Faith Cole is passionate about extraordinary living, audacious faith and communication.


  • Sokeng says:


    Once again, I cannot tell you how timely your blog posts always are as they relate to what I’m going through in my life. Last week your post title totally caught my eye on constant process of “becoming.” Everything about this was so beautiful. And I have to tell you, the one line I read over and over again (and it stayed with me all week) was a line, that stuck with me because I couldn’t relate to it.

    “When situations seem stagnant, it is hard to believe that we are becoming something new.”

    I have been in a unruly state of transitions. My constant has been change. So for me, the lie that I fight very hard to believe is that, “when situations seem to always be in flux, it is hard to believe that I am still worthy.” Oh, it’s so hard and so real. And then I open up on browser, and there you are. A reminder that as I am becoming, I am always worthy. God bless you. Thank you.

  • Sheree Brand says:

    I definitely needed this. Thank you for writing this!

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