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We will always experience in our lives, at least once ‘the new girl’. The one that wasn’t there but emerged from the shadows , it’s sound dark and gloomy. At least the way I just introduced it, but it’s not even though It may seem that way. I’ve never liked being the new girl. All eyes are on you, people are trying to pick at you and read your mind. What does she like? Where did she come from? You feel like an outsider but it takes time and before you know it you’ll be inside.

I always used to remain quiet and just break in very slowly. That’s just who I am, others may just fit right in straight away. It could be due to personality or how people just connect so quickly. We are all different, but one thing you shouldn’t do is give up. We are all in the same boat, you are new and so are they. It’s an experience we are facing at one time and it’s time to realize what needs to be done to overcome the ‘new girl syndrome’. 

Acknowledge it

It is true, you are the new girl. The person people don’t know, you’ve made a shift happen. Nervousness and awkwardness is going to be the first thing you’re going to feel. Remember others all started new too. In some circumstances, it’s a group of new people, which makes it easier because you’re all in the same boat. At this place, this moment you’re by yourself. Acknowledge that it’s going to take time

Embrace it

Embrace the fact that you are new. A new face is refreshing. You change the atmosphere and a new personality that they will come to embrace. You are also bringing fresh ideas and something different. You need to know it’s going to be fine, it always takes people a while to get used to one another.

“Just try new things. Don’t be afraid. Step out of your comfort zones and soar, all right?” – Michelle Obama

Don’t force it

Don’t try to fit in as the new person, if you try too hard they will see right through you. There’s no need to rush, just be you. As much as you will be attracted to people they will attract to you.

Pass it

Pass it by and begin to let it go, because it’s not long before you’ll be just like the rest of them and the next person will be new. It can be difficult to get out of it because you’re constantly thinking “because I’m new am I doing things wrong. Am I invading?” Probably but a new experience builds new memories. Memories that you will have to grow with the people you meet. So let it go by. Think of it like a fresh start for yourself, a new place you can settle in and make your own. Let it pass by and you will benefit from seeing how far you’ve come.

“Just try new things. Don’t be afraid. Step out of your comfort zones and soar, all right?” – Michelle Obama


Amani Henry

Amani Henry

Amani is a Photographer and Media Specialist. She has worked in London and Canada managing and leading teams within Film and Media. Amani has a passion for sharing positivity and expressing herself to help others. She often has people call her Gucci and Prada!

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